I remember reading this post when it first came out, but just stumbled back across it, and thought I’d post it here for all to enjoy, and for my future easy reference.
My own thoughts on the issue: Here, here, and here.
Just came across this wonderful satyrical post on the crazy modesty standards we have today…
It does such a wonderful job showing the ridiculous double standard we have around this issue.
Finally, I must address a final aspect of the modesty issue. The way modesty is taught in the church is harmful, I believe; to the men, women, boys and girls of the church. I think it is flat wrong to teach the young women of the church that it is their responsibility to control the thoughts of the young men, by dressing in a way that would not be sexually appealing to them. It tells the girls that if they do get inappropriate attention, ogled, harassed, or raped, that somehow it is their fault. And IT’S NOT!
Some will say they’ve NEVER heard that taught in church…. for which I’m glad. Explicit statements like this are disappearing, I believe. But, the implied message remains, and is picked up on by both sexes.
The World teaches our girls that:
- A) In order to have value, they must be desirable to men.
- B) In order to be desirable to men, they must appear sexually available
- C) Clothing is used to indicate sexual availability
- D) Therefore, our girls should wear X (where X= revealing, tight-fitting, you-name-it) to indicate they are sexually available, therefore desirable, therefore valuable. (more…)
This is an old post from the old blog, with some new editing, links and streamlining.
So what exactly is modesty? It’s really interesting, considering the increasing emphasis
in the current church, that I wasn’t really able to find anything in the scriptures on the subject. A quick search of the scriptures
led to a single use of the word modest, in 1 Timothy, Ch 2
. Here, the use seems to fall in line with the traditional
definition of modesty, which has nothing to do with dress per say. It’s about being humble. About avoiding what the Book of Mormon calls
fine twined linens and costly apparel. About not being prideful.
Looking through the scriptures, I find lots of negative comments about clothing generally, and some neutral ones like admonitions not to worry
about it. When it’s not mentioned negatively, any positive views are often talked about only in reference to clothing the naked. Here, it seems, it’s more about providing something to someone who is poor, no different than providing housing to the homeless.